Posted by: canaryinacoalmine | April 20, 2006

tug of war

M: Oh no, you havent heard the best yet.

I gasped in awe, Theres more? Where does he get off

M: When she grabbed him he smiled that, she scrunched her face in disgust recounting all the times shes seen him do it and blown it off due to her own insecurity.

J: Yeah, Ive seen that crooked smile.

Mel and I have followed one another through our career path networking our contacts. We were sitting at our monthly lunch trading contacts and discussing our most recent relationship blunders.

Mel is tall and angular, studiously stylish, and naturally gorgeous. Shes the type of girl one is alternately jealous of and shocked by. Shes genuinely kind and captivatingly attractive but insists on continuously stumbling into poor choices of the romantic persuasion. And occasionally, the purely physical bad decisions. Her men must be tall, preppy, jocks, the eternal fraternity boy of the unfaithful blend. Theres plenty of this blend trolling around in Houston. Her latest had been injured while playing basketball. The petite blonde who tended to him in the emergency room was later seen cuddled in his arms in a bar that very evening.

Her ego was shattered once again, Wasnt I the one to play nurse?

J: Shes got a degree in it. Youre already at a disadvantage. Good riddance to that jack ass.

I on the other hand continue to play tug of war, Like Kendra told me, when you send something out; you expect a message in return. When the message isnt returned Ive got one of two options. Call bull shit and walk or sit and pine.

I know where this is headed.

With mud in my face?

Weve all made mistakes that are impossible to undo, but what if you did everything right the first time? In todays Sex & the City Dating Space if you dont fall flat on your face, have your heart torn in two and spit back at you; youre bound to end up scrolling through dates like a rolodex. The only serial daters not making mistakes are the ones who jump into each new relation with little risk and nothing to lose. Ah. Yes. Them. Theyre the ones not growing. If we continually move through life like a herd of cattle following the same path over and over listening to our gut with each new encounter, were stagnant. Mud becomes a temporary tattoo that simply wont rub off leaving one to question how the hell did I wind up here? Again. Again. All the accessories, shoes, and clothes to boot the Galleria has to offer wont disclose the growth process unless you take a break and understand what went wrong.

James Joyce said it poetically, “Mistakes are the portals of discovery.”

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  1. Mr. Joyce was wrong. All I’ve managed to discover is that guys don’t know what they want and they can lie like there’s no tomorrow. I’ve got so much mud on my face, I can’t see through it.

    Now I know why there are so many single women in this city. You can’t find a nice guy in his 30’s that’s not acting like he’s 20.

  2. Breaks, time away, or even the simple respite to “sort shit out” are definitely needed…but I also believe that in the midst of such “looking in” it is also important to keep a weather eye out, just in case the chance of a lifetime comes along.

  3. Sometimes I think we’re writing each other’s blogs.

  4. I like this post very much. It’s true that we learn a lot in life by our mistakes. I’m a firm believer in this and it’s what makes us stronger. Okay, enough preaching. Have a nice Friday.

  5. Moooo.

  6. but some mistakes cause more damage than the lesson learned is worth.

  7. I agree with James Joyce, I say let it ride and see where things take you.

    Don’t put up with people who mess with your heart though.

    CHeers,

    Scott

  8. I’m in my early 30s, but I don’t know what I’m supposed to act like. Most people my age are married with kids, so I guess I’m in a Year 25 rut or something.

  9. I like that quote a lot.

  10. Et tu Brute?? You must not love me anymore.. 🙂

    Hope you have a fantastic weekend babe!!

    C.

  11. You know, it’s funny, but I always thought my problem was that I acted like I was in my Fourties when I was in my Twenties. Now that I’m in my Thirties, I don’t quite know how to act. Mainly, I just try to act casual and see where that gets me. Often, it gets me into very strange situations.

    Hope you had a good weekend, inspite of declarations to get off the merry go round.


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